Most people who have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder have been misdiagnosed.  People who have the real condition of BPD often go undetected, are unseen, or misunderstood.  The condition needs definition because its real, and understanding it forces change for the better in everyone.  What does it mean when “I” say a person has Borderline Personality Disorder? 

The condition originates from extreme abandonment and/or abuse in the early years of an empathic person’s life, during the critical years of brain development.  (If the same situation occurs for a person with high levels of genetic narcissism, they develop very differently and become sociopathic rather than borderline.  A sociopath becomes empowered, well-adjusted and successful in the world controlled by sociopaths, opposite to a borderline who becomes crippled and helpless beyond a special niche they find to excel within.) 

For a (personwith)pwBPD, their true sense of self is unable to develop, and their brain is partially autistic in the sense that their social and intimate growth and development is stunted not from biological factors, but rather from traumatic factors, meanwhile they often find a coping mechanism to develop skill sets and abilities that have above average attention/training/practice.  Because of the level of pain, trauma, discomfort, and confusion when it comes to socializing with others, for survival and functionality, a pwBPD shuts down their right brain, and develops a personality with their left brain only.  This left-brain personality will make peace at all costs, turn all bad things good, please all abusers, and create a projected image of perfection onto all things evil.  It normalizes horrors and transforms everything that is negative into a positive, usually beyond other’s awareness or comprehension.  The left brain for example will allow strangers to become instant best friends and give them all their assets, allow the friends to plan and execute the murder of their family members, allow a partner to sexually molest their children, make believe a wife out of a person who is married and in love with a different partner.  In actuality, the real partially autistic person has no skills to problem solve, so their left-brain personality is the only one who can act in social situations by mimicking the social environment or past examples of behavior.  However, once the damage is getting extreme from the actions of the left-brain personality, a right-brain personality shuts down the left and takes over the body.  The right-brain personality has the memory of all the trauma over a lifetime, all the abuse, and appears as an evil personality or devil possession.  This personality has no empathy, speaks as if possessed by the devil, can end relationships and lives, killing people or themselves psychologically, emotionally, and physically in murder or suicide.  This personality is in an extreme psychotic state, and at times can black out completely.  It lasts from hours to no more than three days before the brain and nervous system calm, and the real partially recoverable autistic person returns with limited memory of the other two personalities. 

Just as with the other known extreme trauma disorder that occurs under different conditions, multiple personality disorder/dissociative identity disorder, the left and right brain personalities have vague to no awareness of the other personalities.  The left brain is fake, ignoring the right brain and true self, and the right brain at some point steps in to react to the damage done by the left brain but is psychotic in a state of acute trauma.  Eventually the real self begins alternating with the right brain personality realizing something very bad is occurring.  It looks like a rapid shifting between two opposite personalities.  After the right brain has climaxed, the real self is able to gain sobriety and has an integrated awareness of the difficult complexities that comprise their trauma condition.  Only the real personality who is partially autistic is aware of the other two personalities, as their real self-brain functions with both hemispheres.  The dangers are when the social environment will not allow the real personality to return, or when the two false personalities cause so much “emptiness,” or extreme hopelessness combined with extreme grief, that the real personality can no longer bear to return to existence in reality.    

BPD is treatable only by working with the partially autistic person, educating them on the condition, creating a safe, comfortable space where they can learn to be present with their discomforts rather than going into a left-brain personality.  The partially autistic person can learn cognitive awareness and begin to gain cognitive empathy to protect themselves from abusers, which differs from a genetically or physically autistic person who is able to gain cognitive awareness of others.  People with BPD can develop and integrate their brain, and learn techniques to release trauma from their body.  BPD recovery is dependent on the removal of abusers or other people with mindlessness that call on, expect, justify, or empower the false personalities.  A pwBPD also needs a mindful and BPD educated re-parenting loved one to maintain their awareness of themselves and others, and guide them by helping to consciously navigate through social terrain, developing interpersonal skills to overcome their partial autism. 

Traits of BPD and the struggles of people with BPD are common for all people, however the difference is a lifetime without skill sets, developmentally disordered from trauma and having disordered social models, and a shifting brain that has created two alternate personalities that both destroy the true personality and their significant relationships.